Babe, This is better than a ring

This is a Costco membership card. MY membership card. Some of you know what this is, or maybe you are more familiar with Sam’s. They are actually similar, both are member only clubs to shop for bulk items at a great discount. Good deals. You can buy Sweet n Lo, in bulk,  it will last a YEAR. I’m not kidding.

I, usually, will buy toilet paper, paper towels, and trash bags. Being a single mother, it makes sense to try and save where I can. Jason has a membership, and I would go with him. We would figure out how to pay the other back for things bought or what not. His membership, he has to pay, or I pay. Only one can pay – one card.

Going to Costco on a saturday is like an adventure – you never know what samples they might be serving. You never know what wonderful books, toys, equipment, seasonal and otherwise, that they might be carrying. I LOVE Costco. It’s so fun and I hate shopping, so this tells you a lot.

Earlier this year, on a Costco trip, Jason mentions that his X is still on his Costco membership. REALLY? WHY? He says it’s free for him and he just never bothered to take her off. REALLY?

Quite honestly, it upset me. If it were HER membership, I guarantee you – he would have been taken off immediately. She divorced HIM. Why is he still being nice to her?

He tells me, he is a nice guy. I agree, BUT come on…..after everything? If she likes Costco so much, let her buy her own membership. It can’t be that much. It still ties them together. It still seemed like he was honoring his wifely commitment (and you remember that whole drama) which I thought ended at his divorce in December, or so I thought. It bothered me – GREATLY.

He didn’t understand, and I get that. I do. It’s harmless right? She is buying stuff for the kids – his kids – that he pays child support for. A LOT of child support, like what I lived on as single parent working full time AND with my child support added in, child support. But I digress….

What I am saying is – I felt like he chose her over me. That no matter what, I would always be second. She was the mother of his children. She came first.

Now, I do tend to overanlayze and read more into something than I should. I KNOW. You are all shaking your head. This is how it felt at that time. I stewed a half hour, came to terms with it, realized all the nice things I did for my ex husband Sonny – and still would do. I would have felt better if she was as nice as Sonny but still – I was fine with it. Stop it, I WAS.

On my merry way I went, without another thought (usually). Oh, I’d feel a twinge when we’d visit Costco. My mind would want to holler to me – I was SECOND. I didn’t listen. I knew, I was first. Get behind thee, Satan.

One of our last visits, we had the kids. We are having a jolly old time. Goofing off, trying samples, and playing with everything. I do mean everything. girlsincart
At check out, I took the girls along with Sydney and Kyle to get drinks at the little concession. We were sipping our smoothies, when I see Jason waving at me. I leave Sydney with the kids and go to him. He is standing there at the back computer behind the check out, smiling.

Give her your info, I am adding you to my membership. My JAW dropped. Huh? Really? He was taking X off and adding me. I barely recovered enough to give her my name, then as if in a daze, we head over to get my picture taken for my new card. My new card.

I don’t understand why months, and months later he had this change of heart. I will say it made me feel very, very special. Such a simple thing, but it was an act of love for me. It filled my heart.

I said to Jason, “Babe, this is better than a ring!”.

He says to me, “We’ll see about that”.

14 thoughts on “Babe, This is better than a ring

  1. 5minutesplease

    I don’t know you well, but maybe you are over analyzing. I did not know that you could add a non-family member. I am happy for you at the idea that you are so tickled to be added on Jason’s membership. And now, you have us all hanging b/c of the last two sentences in your entry!!! Oh my! It would be so funny if he proposed marriage to you at Costco!!

    Angelia, you would get along great with my hubby. He goes to Costco even when we don’t need stuff just to find a good deal (on food).
    A friend on the east coast just got her Sam’s membership. She posted on FB: “I love Sam’s club – buy in bulk/save money, have furniture to rest in when tired and with all the samples can have a four course meal -yesterday it was chips and salsa, spice ham, maui tuna, raw veggies with dip and for dessert – chocalate chip cheesecake.” Does this sound like you??? Sounds like Steve!
    Personally, I dislike the bulk buying. Really, who likes to eat the same “enter food category” for two months at a time.

    I am so happy that Steve does the shopping–I hate it with great passion. Did you see the post on my FB about being banned from shopping?

    You are so cool!!


    1. Guys don’t think like girls, I am positive I spun it the wrong way. It didn’t bother me very long.

      YES, YES, YES, That DOES sound like me! That could be my post! A day at Costco, LOL. The bulk buying, I mainly use for items we use every day, not necesarily food. (unless it’s Sydney’s lunch stuff)

      You are lucky to have a husband like that. I don’t like shopping either. I just like Costco. 🙂


  2. Not only do you have a costco membership but an EXECUTIVE! I am so jealous. We are lowly gold star members-for the time being. I love it there. I could go daily if the people wouldn’t give me weird looks.


    1. I guess the best part was the surprise of it. I never expected him to do anything differently for me. Fact that he did, just meant he really was paying attention to me, sensitive to my needs and my happiness. Ahh, that’s a good feeling to know.


  3. Peggy Nolan

    Angelia – Jason thinks like Rick…although, Rick came to his senses and realized that he had to treat his ex more like an ex…

    Now that you have your own Costco card…when’s the date?? 😉


  4. Peggy, I think he does too. He seems nice like Rick. I hope (and think) he will come to his senses like him. Time precious time is all it takes! Well…..we went on a Sushi date last night 😉 haha


  5. Ok, I abhor grocery shopping, but Costco, well thats just a different realm. I LOVE it there!! Saturdays near holidays are just stupid crazy and thats ok!!

    Not bugging him to change it was really cool of you. 😉 Not so sure I coulda done the same. But good things come to those who wait. Costco Karma or something. =)

    Oh, by the way…I always go hungry…and eat my way thru the store. lol


  6. The last two times I’ve gone, they haven’t had NEAR as many samples out. Now, I hope that was just a fluke! I gotta TRY the product people!!!

    I found another store, I like to shop/play at…..The Apple Store. Computers/ipods/itouch……Heaven!!!


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