The best inspiration is not to outdo others, but to outdo ourselves.
Winning victory against yourself
No one likes to lose. The thrill of victory after competition is hard to match. But the wins that leave the most significant, long-term impressions are the ones where you win against yourself. Beating a friend in a game of hoops is much less meaningful than setting a personal best time while running. We live in a highly competitive world, and everything around us screams that we’ve got to be number one in order to feel successful. Truly though, the best measuring sticks are your past and your potential–not against someone else’s standards. Raise the bar for yourself!
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Outdo myself. What a concept.
Seems like most of my life, I tried to be who my mom wanted me to be. Who I was supposed to be. Then, who my husband wanted me to be. Who would make everyone happy. Who would make everyone get along.
When I become a mother. I measured up to other moms. Was I going by the book guidelines? Doing what other moms did? Was I teaching my daughter the right things? Moral things? I beat myself up if i didn’t reach their standards.
Did I live how other people live? Work as hard? Have as much?
It seemed life WAS about measuring up to everyone else around me.
Now, as I near a new year, the year I turn forty, I have finally, not only grasped the concept of potential, but the victory of winning for myself.
Knowing I’m only as good as my last shot.
And my last edit.
I can do it….for me.
I am not competing with anyone else. I’m just doing what I love. Learning what I love, and not being afraid to try.
I write. I blog. Maybe, it’s not as good as other technical writers. I may not win a writing contest, or be featured, or get published, but as long as I write from my heart, it’s all that matters.
In relationships, I can be me. I am accepted and loved just as I am. I don’t have to pretend to be something I am not. I can love who I am. Because I am true to myself and I believe in what I can do.
As a mom, I can tell my daughter and step-daughters. I am far from perfect, but willing to learn from and help them learn too.
As an employee, maybe my numbers won’t be first, or at the top, but I can take pride in what I do. I can admit to having a bad day and not fall apart over it. It’s okay. Some days are better than others. I can grow in my field. I can be stress-free.
I don’t have to be the best. I only have to be better.
What are you reflecting on today?