Sunday Healthy Reflection

The best inspiration is not to outdo others, but to outdo ourselves.

– Anonymous

    Winning victory against yourself

No one likes to lose. The thrill of victory after competition is hard to match. But the wins that leave the most significant, long-term impressions are the ones where you win against yourself. Beating a friend in a game of hoops is much less meaningful than setting a personal best time while running. We live in a highly competitive world, and everything around us screams that we’ve got to be number one in order to feel successful. Truly though, the best measuring sticks are your past and your potential–not against someone else’s standards. Raise the bar for yourself!

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Outdo myself. What a concept.

Seems like most of my life, I tried to be who my mom wanted me to be. Who I was supposed to be. Then, who my husband wanted me to be. Who would make everyone happy. Who would make everyone get along.

When I become a mother. I measured up to other moms. Was I going by the book guidelines? Doing what other moms did? Was I teaching my daughter the right things? Moral things? I beat myself up if i didn’t reach their standards.

Did I live how other people live? Work as hard? Have as much?

It seemed life WAS about measuring up to everyone else around me.

Now, as I near a new year, the year I turn forty, I have finally, not only grasped the concept of potential, but the victory of winning for myself.

I take on photography as an amateur and student of knowledge.

Knowing I’m only as good as my last shot.

And my last edit.

I can do it….for me.

I am not competing with anyone else. I’m just doing what I love. Learning what I love, and not being afraid to try.

I write. I blog. Maybe, it’s not as good as other technical writers. I may not win a writing contest, or be featured, or get published, but as long as I write from my heart, it’s all that matters.

In relationships, I can be me. I am accepted and loved just as I am. I don’t have to pretend to be something I am not. I can love who I am. Because I am true to myself and I believe in what I can do.

As a mom, I can tell my daughter and step-daughters. I am far from perfect, but willing to learn from and help them learn too.

As an employee, maybe my numbers won’t be first, or at the top, but I can take pride in what I do. I can admit to having a bad day and not fall apart over it. It’s okay. Some days are better than others. I can grow in my field. I can be stress-free.

I don’t have to be the best. I only have to be better.

What are you reflecting on today?

The Scoop

Brownie, and I are off to Oklahoma today. She wants to meet her Grandma, who will probably eat her up. It will take a lot to get back home with her.

I had quite the experience last night. My second photo shoot, that wasn’t of Sydney, and the girls. Plus, it was a bride trying out her bridal gown. See, a few nights ago, I offered my photography services to friends, and family (free). I decided I could read about photography, or I could just get out there and do it. With practice (like writing), maybe I would get better at it.

The response was astounding. And the next day at work when they were talking about it, a co-worker mentions her future daughter-in-law that wants pictures in her wedding dress. Of course, I jumped at the chance. The next day, ten minutes prior to her arrival, I got really nervous about it. I have no idea how to pose or what facial expressions to tell them to use. I relied on the family with her to distract her. After a while, everyone got comfortable, I got more natural shots. I did get the lighting right on some. For an amateur, I think it was incredible experience.

Here are a few of my favorites. I can see why photographers love to shoot weddings. There is something magical that happens, when a girl puts on her dress.

I couldn’t have asked for a more beautiful model. And I have to thank my mentor, and friend, for her incredible inspiration, and support. Kellene at Bella Lucia Photography.

Last thing is this, I am back over at the The Scoop on Poop blog. I want to thank DramaMama for graciously hosting me for TWO days.
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Thank you for coming by. Between photography, writing, working, and now going to Oklahoma. I haven’t had a lot of time to visit and read blogs. I really appreciate your readership!

Savoir-Faire as the Cookie Crumbles

Keep your feet on the ground even though friends flatter you.

Apparently, my plans of floating away using my ballooned head from the ego boosting review, and the wonderful, uplifting comments has been delayed. Because the cookie said so. And you don’t mess with the cookie.

I will keep my feet on the ground and heed the advice I was given, in such a timely fashion.

My blog will stay the same as always. No bells, whistles, or shining lights; no mad endorsements, or instant fame. I will still write, chronicle, and record. I will continue to laugh, live, and love. And each, and every response I get from you, I will cherish and give thanks, because I appreciate every one. But my flying days? Well, they will be saved for my honeymoon.

So I bow down to the master cookie in the sky (God really does have a sense of humor) and praise you for preserving my character for another day.

I should say tact was worth much more than wealth as a road to leadership…. I mean that subtle apprehension which teaches a person how to do and say the right thing at the right time. It coexists with very ordinary qualities, and yet many great geniuses are without it. Of all human qualities I consider it the most convenient—not always the highest; yet I would rather have it than many more shining qualities.

-M. E. W. Sherwood

**This post also inspired by the fact that the superintendent of the school I went to (elementary-graduation), reads, subscribes, and comments on my blog** What an honor! Thank you Todd. You were an amazing biology teacher and I know you are an amazing superintendent. It was great to see you at the reunion last year. I could really get a big head from your glowing comments. Thank goodness we have fortune cookies to keep us sane. 🙂

I’ve Come to Realize…..

A Facebook tag from my friend, editor, and writer – Elizabeth Irwin.

I hope you don’t mind I brought it to WordPress. It’s actually just the kind of thing I need tonight after a busy weekend that has left me a fuzzy brain and a very sore body.

1. I’ve come to realize that my chest-size…needs a lot of support when jogging.

2. I’ve come to realize that my job….is worth keeping and doing my best at.

3. I’ve come to realize that when I’m driving…it’s best if I’m not late.

4. I’ve come to realize that I need…to have fun, even if I risk ankle injury jumping for joy in a pink castle bounce house.

5. I’ve come to realize that I have lost…the need to control or be controlled.

6. I’ve come to realize that I hate…conflict.

7. I’ve come to realize that if I’m drunk…I’m having a flashback of my first after divorce phase.

8. I’ve come to realize that money….should be handled by persons wiser than me.

9. I’ve come to realize that certain people…will seek to control out of their own fear of failure.

10. I’ve come to realize that I’ll always…find compassion and heart to spare.

11. I’ve come to realize that my sibling(s)…are more important to me than anything and I hope they know how much I love them.

12. I’ve come to realize that my mom…is a crafty spitfire I adore.

13. I’ve come to realize that my cell phone…is addictive.

14. I’ve come to realize that when I woke up this morning…I had no idea what was in store for me good or bad.

15. I’ve come to realize that my first love is…loving others.

16. I’ve come to realize that right now I am thinking about…all the blogs I have missed reading the last few days.

17. I’ve come to realize that my dad…both of them are missed and cherished dearly.

18. I’ve come to realize that when I get on Facebook…I like reading status updates and commenting on life happening the best.

19. I’ve come to realize that today…ended quite nicely, laughing at comics, watching bats fly, editing photographs and eating chocolate cake.

20. I’ve come to realize that my best friend(s)…are my safety net.

21. I’ve come to realize that my spouse…I’m marrying in October was meant for me. Truly.

22. I’ve come to realize that I really want to…master photography.

23. I’ve come to realize that life…is what you make it.

24. I’ve come to realize that this weekend…I’ve got to mow the duplex field yard.

25. I’ve come to realize that next weekend…will be here before you know it.

26.I’ve come to realize that my (step)children…are God’s gift to my life.

27. I’ve come to realize that when life gives you lemons….just add sugar to make it right.

Wanna play?



Aging Mommy







Anyone else? Play along if you’d like. Please don’t feel obligated. I have a birthday post coming up Wednesday when my almost step-daughter officially turns four.

In the mean time…..I’ve been working hard on getting these pictures posted.

Bridget's Fourth Princess Party